My mum moved overseas when I turned eighteen. She usually visits Australia once a year. Next month she is coming to Australia for a six month contract in Sydney (we’re in Melbourne). She finally emailed me her flight details today. She is coming to Australia three days after Arlo’s first birthday, and she’s going to visit other family in Brisbane before she heads to Sydney to start work, but not come to us. She has not even met Huey yet. Even though she lets me down every time I see her, I still feel so disappointed that I can hardly breathe.
June 25, 2008
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sorry to hear that love. Some Mum’s just aren’t Mum-ish. I can relate to your feeling. I try to appreciate my Mum as a person… and remember to expect very very little from her. It’s not very satisfying though is it?
Comment by E — June 25, 2008 @ 10:03 pm
We’re so sorry. That’s awful.
Comment by TheMuriels — June 26, 2008 @ 12:42 am
Oh Bean, I started off reading this post with such hope and happiness tat your Mum would be in town to celebrate with you. I ended the post feeling sad and empty for you. Im so sorry your mum has let you down again. You know I can sympathise with you on the Mother front! No matter how many times you hurt and how hard to work to build the defences, there is always room for just one more hurt. Im just so sorry for you. Your little family deserves so much more. Im not even related but am filled with love every time I see your family, you are 2 amazing mums with 2 incredible boys. xxxx Pcat
Comment by pcat — June 26, 2008 @ 6:05 am
That really sucks. I’m sorry, you guys, it must be really painful. Damn parents… (Except the good ones! Like you!)
Comment by az — June 26, 2008 @ 10:48 am
that’s really sad. is she not going to visit at all?
Comment by nix — June 26, 2008 @ 6:19 pm
Ouch. I’m really sorry to hear that. I have a new-ish nephew and niece and am just starting to realize how children make everything even more complicated and painful within families.
Comment by Ika — June 26, 2008 @ 11:10 pm
(I mean, where things are complicated and painful already! Not that the babies BRING PAIN or anything!)
Comment by Ika — June 26, 2008 @ 11:11 pm
i’m really sorry, bean. your mum is missing out on being part of such a joyous little family!
Comment by J-Le — June 28, 2008 @ 8:12 am
I can’t imagine her not rushing to meet those beautiful boys. I’m very sorry. I get disappointed/hurt by my mother all the time. I can relate.
Comment by Erin — June 28, 2008 @ 4:07 pm
*sigh* She’s missing out. I’d be all over those babies if I could get to Australia. You wouldn’t be able to get rid of me.
I’m sorry, though. Disappointment is, well, disappointing.
xoxo
Comment by starrhillgirl — June 30, 2008 @ 11:40 am
my heart is breaking, I have tears in my eyes- I will no longer groan when my parents are
here staying with us and sometimes driving me nuts, for our kids are so lucky to have them.
I know it’s not the same but they have lots of grandparent love that they’d love to
share with Arlo and Huey too.
Comment by kate — July 2, 2008 @ 3:55 pm
I know your pain, the disappointment is awful. Im so sorry, there is no way to make it better. Becoming a mum makes you want your mum to be there, and when she isn’t and never really has been, it makes you grieve for that. I feel sorry that she will miss out on seeing your beautiful sons. And I could cry to think that she hasn’t even met the beautiful little Huey….what a shame. We love you xxxx
Comment by M — July 2, 2008 @ 9:31 pm
bean, i am so very sorry about your mum’s ridiculous behavior. i’m sure her flakiness/neglect feels all the more powerful now that you are a mother. i hope that there is a whole lot of comfort surrounding you.
Comment by ohchicken — July 5, 2008 @ 4:45 am